Self-Harm/Self-Injury/Self-Soothing – day 6 – 31 days of October link up


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Some of you heard about and read my article on “Self-Harm, It’s Not Just Cutting” on International Bipolar Foundation. The link is here –> IBPF. If you haven’t read it, please give it a read so I don’t have to go into the whole article here.

I self-harm. I do not cut, but I use other ways to get the same feelings. For some reason the physical pain takes away the mental pain. For me, it help relieves anxiety.

People learned many things from my article:

Although it usually starts around the teen years it can start even earlier, I was a toddler who tore the skin off her fingers and when my parents tried to stop that with gloves I pulled out my hair til I had a huge bald spot. They took away the gloves, but they had given me a new way to self-soothe as I prefer to call it. As a teenager I tried cutting. I did it several times, but I didn’t the same feelings out of it. I stopped. Off and on I would pick at scabs, mainly on my head and tear them open over and over never letting them heal and always having blood on my fingers from tearing at them. Currently that is what I am doing and I have been lucky that I haven’t gotten an infection from any of that.

People don’t realize that any type of situation where you harm your body is Self-Harm. Most people honestly think it is just cutting. The article gives a list of things that can be considered Self-Harm.

It is not just teenagers who do this. Look at me, all my life and I am about to turn 59. My therapist wants to help me stop it, but in most cases you need a therapist who specializes. And to be frank, you really have to want to stop.

Hope you enjoyed my Day 6 blog post.

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13 thoughts on “Self-Harm/Self-Injury/Self-Soothing – day 6 – 31 days of October link up

        1. Tessa Post author

          My skin picking is bad. All the way down my fingers and across my palms. My scab picking I used a band today to try and stop it and I went all day with out tearing at them and boom started blogging and I tore them off. They were fairly healed too.

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    1. Tessa Post author

      It is not my blog actually I just write for them. I will be letting everyone know when the next blog of mine is posted. You can follow them on Facebook. It exploded there.

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  1. painkills2

    There must be something in the brain that allows for this kind of pain — self-harm — to be soothing, like bad wiring or something. I guess medication can help stop this behavior, but is there anything else that helps you, like distraction therapy?

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    1. Tessa Post author

      There are times when distraction will help. Today I kept a rubber-band on all day and I have a red wrist from slapping it and as I worked on the blog I started in again. Anxiety feeds into it and I need the soothing and then you get to the point that you are addicted to it and you don’t even think about it. You just do it. So I made it all day only to fall back as worked on my blog. I am not very happy with myself although it usually takes more than 1 day to break a habit like that because it does become a habit usually after some time.

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  2. JoAnna

    Someone I love puts a NON toxic goop on her fingers, and after it dries, she peels it off. She said that helps her. She also likes to color. I’ve heard it takes about 21 days of concentrated effort to create a new habit. I’m hoping you feel better soon.

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    1. Tessa Post author

      My parents tried the nasty stuff on my fingers. I didn’t care. They put gloves on my hands and I tore out my hair. Somewhere along the way I picked up scab picking. I have a coloring book, but after the first day I lost interest. It is sitting right here in front of me. Thank you!

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