Extra pain pills helping pain, but making me sleepy! Stroke and memory loss!

I kept dozing off while at the rehab center with my dad. We had a family care meeting to see where he stands.

Right now if he went home he would need a nurse 24/7 (not affordable).

Their current goal is to have him functioning with help in 4-5 weeks as they say he is making progress. Maybe physically he is, but what about the memory loss. He doesn’t know how many children he has. He doesn’t remember his address (I am fairly sure his driving days are over anyhow). He is slowly losing his birthdate, which is important in all things medical and I doubt he remembers his social security number. And now he is asking for my mom’s birthyear. So that is also disappearing. Who knows what else that hasn’t come to our attention yet.

He is in a diaper as he can’t get to the bathroom in time nor use a urinal though that doesn’t surprise me as he is in a diaper that he can’t get off anyhow. We have to hope they know what they are doing.

He feeds himself with his opposite hand due to his left side neglect. Trying to teach him to remember to turn his head with his food tray as he doesn’t know what is on his left as it doesn’t occur to him to look there without prompting. I have also been working with him to turn his plate as half of it is on the left side which he doesn’t see. I find it hard put to think he could do this again on his own. We don’t want him in long care rehab or a nursing home, but it looks like that will be happening. We do not mention it. We still talk as if he is going home.

I haven’t cried yet although a good cry would help clear the air some. He’s lost his dignity and just does what he is told.

This sucks!

Tessa – advocate for mental health and invisible illnesses, also devout Christian

Author – http://www.finallyawriter.com (this blog contains my old work), new work is on this blog http://www.tessacandoit.com

2 thoughts on “Extra pain pills helping pain, but making me sleepy! Stroke and memory loss!

  1. DWPenner

    My heart goes out to you Tessa. My Dad’s stroke mostly took away his speech, but other issues took his life before he could leave the hospital. I was very lucky that Dad was still all there even though he had problems communicating. I saw how hard he worked to regain his speech. (It was the part of the brain that put together the words, his mouth, throat, etc worked fine.) My Grandfather though had severe dementia.

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    1. Tessa Post author

      Thank you! Sorry for your loss. His speech is improving, the slurring is mostly gone and his mouth isn’t drooping, but his memory is slowly but surely disappearing. He says he has no children or 6 children, but he can’t connect the concept that my sister and I are his children so he has at least 2. He actually has 3, but my brother is not around. He asks me over and over what his address is. He is starting to forget his dog’s name. He forgets my mom’s birthdate and is getting slower and slower when asked his. He is still there in many ways, but in others he is very confused. He has forgotten my sister once. We have to face the reality that he isn’t going to be going home to live alone like he used to. He can’t stand or walk or is refusing to, not sure about that. To him the whole left side does not exist. I have never dealt with a stroke before and after this experience I hope I don’t put my kids through it. Although Dementia runs in my mother’s side of the family and I am terrified that one day I will simply not be “here” anymore. I won’t know it though unless I am having a good day. My mom went in and out of the dementia (she also had Parkinson’s Disease) and one day she simply stopped responding and 10 or so days later was gone. She was DNR (Do Not Resuscitate).



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