My dad is a gentle and kind man. The other day (he is now in long term care) he struck out at a woman who was touching him and he grabbed her arm and threatened to twist her neck if she didn’t stop touching his ears. They called my sister as this is not normal behavior for him, but it took her hours to talk to him and try to bring him back to reality. This is what we have to look forward to.
We have to get his house sold, car etc. as he is almost broke and we are still waiting on the government to come through with his Medicaid to pay for the Long Term Care. He is now cash pay or whatever term they use.
I am not much help as I am still in tremendous back pain. I had the nerves deadened 3 weeks ago, but not helping much yet if at all. I occasionally will get a break, but that is usually when I am laying down.
Tessa –
Advocate for mental health and invisible illnesses, also a devout Christian
Author – http://www.finallyawriter.com (this blog contains my old work mostly although occasionally I do add something new here), new work is mainly on this blog http://www.tessacandoit.com
Both are awful and wicked. My mother suffered from both as well. Best of luck to you and your dad. This is going to be a daily struggle. Make sure you take time out for you too. All you can do for your dad right now is to make sure he is comfortable.
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Thank you! We are doing our best. He always enjoyed the family Christmas party. We are having a short version of one tomorrow. We don’t even know if he will be aware or not.
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Be flexible and go with the flow. make him as comfortable as you can. hat’s about all you can do.
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I had to leave earlier the other night. He was slipping into the dementia and I was afraid I was going to yell at him to stop. I figured leaving was better than yelling at him.
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Sadly, he can’t help it. You did the right thing.
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My sister keeps reminding me. She has to leave a lot and he doesn’t even realize how long we have been there.
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Dementia is much harder for the family than for the person who has it. Go to a support group in your area. It will help you a lot.
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I understand it is harder on us because he is unaware of it.Went through years of it with my mom and my grandmom.
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Yep. I will have you in my thoughts and prayers.
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Thank you Danny!
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