#WEEKENDCOFFEESHARE : Memoir Writing, increased pain


#WEEKENDCOFFEESHARE : Memoir Writing, Pain

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Weekend Coffee Share is a time for us to take a break out of our lives and enjoy some time catching up with friends (old and new)!

Grab a cup of coffee and share with us! What’s been going on in your life? What are your weekend plans? Is there a topic you’ve just been ruminating on that you want to talk about?

All are welcome! Just add your link to the Linky-List, and be sure to visit others and join in their conversations! The link will be open from Friday February 8th at 7am (Pacific Time) until Monday February 11th at 7am (Pacific Time) to give us a good range of “weekend”!

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If we were to have a coffee chat this weekend or maybe ice tea as the temps have risen to the near 70’s or higher at times of the day, almost every day now. It rarely drops except overnight sometimes. I am still complaining about the heat in my 6th floor apartment. I still have the air on to try and bring it down some. The fans are going too! I doubt we will have too many cold days from now on. I pay electric so running ac from April to October or November is running up my bill. I actually had to pay my first electric bill since I moved in a year ago. It was $1.95 LOL! I qualify for help from the state for my electric bill and I don’t pay for heating although it is hardly on so the bill wouldn’t be much if I did pay for it, but I’m glad I don’t anyhow. What helped last year was the cooling grant I qualified for because of my asthma. I need the air to keep my asthma under control and help with the wheezing during very humid days. I don’t know if that is available every year or not. Halfway through the year we did get a supplemental one which was what helped keep our bills low along with the monthly discount from the state.

I have been reading a lot of books and web sites on writing memoir. I even laid it out in Word and started filling in the chapters. Trying to find the section of my life to write about was a little harder. Memoirs are just small sections where an autobiography is your whole life starting with “I was born on…” I decided on my marriage, running just prior to and my husband joining the military and those military years, then through getting out and on until the divorce. Still trying to decide if a paragraph at the end on what led me to be who I am. I believe childhood is part of what makes us who we are as adults.

Tomorrow is brunch with the BFF. Wait all week for this.

My pain is just so bad right now. And to top it off the pain doctor cut my pain pills from 4 a day to 3 a day. Still trying to find out why she cut them. Having to wait those 2 extra hours allows the pain to really get a hold of me before I can take the next pain pill.

Have a great week everyone!

Tessa

Advocate for mental health and invisible illnesses, also a devout Christian

Author – http://www.finallyawriter.com (this blog contains my old work mostly although occasionally I do add something new here), new work is mainly on this blog http://www.tessacandoit.com

11 thoughts on “#WEEKENDCOFFEESHARE : Memoir Writing, increased pain

    1. Tessa Post author

      Thank you Rubie. Focusing on my writing helps take my focus off the pain somewhat. We have talked before and you sent me a little cloth blessed by your church if I am not mistaken.

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  1. Gary A Wilson

    Hi Tessa,
    I certainly don’t know details, but is sounds like you suffer from some sort of chronic pain – and I know that can make a person miserable. I hope your doctor finds a solution soon. Hang in there – you can do this.
    Blessings

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    1. Tessa Post author

      Yes Gary Chronic Pain for the last 40 plus years. Between the Fibromyalgia, arthritis in every joint and Degenerative Disk Disease, pinched nerves and stenosis in my spine, life is pretty miserable and I count on those pills to make life more bearable, but for whatever reason she cut the amount of pain pills this month. So far nothing is working. Thanks for your well wishes.

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  2. Sagittarius Viking

    I believe writing a memoir is a great way to process your experiences. I’ve read memoires written by people younger than myself (I’m still in my 30’s.) I’ve read some books about writing memoirs as well. I looked into it when I was pregnant with my daughter, 7 years ago (time flies.) I started writing about my life a couple times, but didn’t feel that it came out the way that I wanted it too. My English wasn’t completely fluid at the time, and perhaps I haven’t figured out the right angle yet. Best of luck with your writing! Thank you for the coffee!

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    1. Tessa Post author

      I wasn’t ready before. The write vehicle for my writing really hadn’t come around. Someone suggested memoir and I am 62, but I am writing about my life as a military wife and then up to our divorce. Now seems to be the time. I was writing the pieces as non-fiction on the blog and then for the writing groups I attend and an author who runs one of the groups suggested I use that work in a memoir. It all made sense then.

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  3. Lance Greenfield

    I understand your awful pain. My wife has suffered from fibromyalgia and five prolapsed lumbar vertebrae for many years. There seems to be no solution. It amazes me that she is able to soldier on. It is tough. I hope that your doctor can help to at least relieve the pain.

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    1. Tessa Post author

      Thank you. My doctor is trying all the things out there, but my body isn’t responding and now she goes and cuts my pain pills and that is not cool. I have been trying for over a week to get an answer on why the cut. Promises, promises. I would like an answer on why she is leaving me without at least the minimum I was used to. I am sorry to hear about your wife. It is hard to soldier on. She is strong, sometimes we just have to be. God bless her.

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