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Problems Showering With Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome

Problems Showering With Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue


I find showers difficult and painful. Just the physical pain from climbing into the bathtub is too much. I have to hold onto both handles and sometimes I have to let go and literally lift my leg up and over the side of the tub. Everytime I shower I wish I had a shower stall. I can’t use the tub and take a bath because I can’t sit down in there and then get back up. I used to love to lie back and soak in a hot bath. I can’t do that anymore and haven’t been able to for at least 14 years.

Most of my washing up consists of baby wipes with a shower once or possibly twice a week depending on my pain or exhaustion.

Tessa – advocate for mental health and invisible illnesses, also devout Christian

Author – (this blog contains my old work mostly although occasionally I do add something new here), new work is mainly on this blog


About “Tessa Can Do It! Positivity is Catching!”

As I have announced I am combining my 2 blogs into one. All of my writing will still be  part of my blogging, but it will just be on one blog. The original writer’s blog will still be there, there just won’t be any new work added to it, but there is plenty there to read and most of my life stories are actually on there under non-fiction. Another reason I wanted to have just one blog.

The more I thought about it the more I realized that “Tessa Can Do It” describes everything I write about so why have more than one blog. Plus trying to figure out what to put on which blog was becoming annoying. Whatever it is, Tessa Can Do It!

I was writing for International Bipolar Foundation, but I finally quit. They are rude, they don’t bother to answer emails. I write for them for free, but they can’t even take the time to let me know if they are interested in the article post or not. If they don’t want it I can certainly use it on my blog. Mental health is a large part of my life and I write my own posts on it besides finding info online to share about mental and physical health. I don’t need to deal with people who are as far as I am concerned, rude. They started out ok  and then started going downhill, changed staff and got worse. When you use free articles as the mainstay of your blog, you treat those people with respect. I personally am tired of it. They don’t deserve my writing. At first it stroked my ego to see my writing on what I thought was a major contender in the mental health field. Now I am tired of being treated without respect. I wrote 3 emails, same subject, several  weeks to months apart and not one of them received an answer. That is rude and non-businesslike. I don’t need the aggravation. My work is back to being my work.

They probably don’t even realize I quit since they don’t seem to bother reading their email. We had a schedule and I gave them plenty of notice that I won’t be writing for them anymore. If they don’t know it, that is their problem, not mine.

Teresa (Tessa) Dean Smeigh

-Advocate for Mental and Invisible Illnesses

-Author of Articles, Stories and Poems (no longer canceling this blog, just not adding new work to it, sign up for for the new posts).

I AM a writer! (first blog piece written 6/4/2012)

I am in my late 50’s right now and have been writing something ever since I was in grade school. I wrote poems and short stories and  people told me they were good. However I didn’t think of myself as a writer.

My recent research has told me that if you write, anything, you ARE a writer!

This thought was shocking to me. Me, a writer? I sure wanted to be, but how could this be?

However I spent some time to reflect on this and I believe they are right. I may not have been paid for any of my writing, but I did have a poem published in an anthology and a mention in a contest even if I didn’t become one of the top winners, I WAS mentioned. Plus I am writing all the time. So yes, I AM a writer.

This blog will be a way to post what I am up to and to capture my progress as I continue my journey of becoming a real published writer.

I have entered several contests over the years. The first time I sent a short story to a magazine I was in my teens and it was rejected. I was broken-hearted and the rejection to me was a failure. I couldn’t take it and after that no one ever saw my writing. I wrote for me only.

When I was in my 30’s I entered a contest for “Writer’s Digest” magazine. That is where I got the mention, although it wasn’t a win, it gave me just a little more confidence. I also wrote some poetry one of which was published, but in an anthology which I believe is sort of like a vanity press type of deal. But seeing it in print gave me another boost. So I have entered some of my poetry and another short story in the last 10 years. The rejection stings, but it didn’t result in the same feelings of failure. My skin is thickening.

I enter NANOWRIMO (National Novel Writing Month) every year, however I never make the full 50,000 words that are required. It doesn’t have to be a polished novel. Just write, and keep writing for a full month. After that you can edit and proofread if you want to do something with it. If you are interested just go to and check it out. I just found out that they are now doing it in June too. The original was in November. How about that. This is June. Maybe I should see about entering again and make it a goal to finish this time.

I know that professional writers make a time to write every day and stick to it. It takes discipline and I am sorely lacking that right now. Perhaps I can work on that discipline and make it a goal to write so much per day. Now how long should I make it. Since I am just starting out I should probably make it for about an hour to begin with. An hour is not that long.

I am researching writing prompts. I know they exist and just might be the boost I need to get started writing again.

Here’s to my brand new life, the writing life!

Teresa (Tessa) Dean Smeigh

-Advocate for Mental and Invisible Illnesses

-Author of Articles, Stories and Poems (moving posts to other blog and will be deleting this one).

No longer writing for International Bipolar Foundation.

I wrote them a post for last February as per the new agreement. Never heard a word except to say they received it and would send me the link if published or a list of things needing changing.

A few months ago I emailed them to find out what happened to it and again last week. No answer to either email. I just emailed them a third time to resign. I am tired of rude companies and I no longer intend to let them use my talent for free. They don’t deserve it. They have people writing for them, but seem to use articles from other sites. So they can knock themselves out and I will write for my own blog and to heck with them.

It was hard finding new topics and they had a lot of volunteer writers so lots of similar posts were out there anyhow. IBPF is old news now and I just posted the l link to my first blog I wrote for them. Oh well, maybe I will delete it.

Teresa (Tessa) Dean Smeigh

-Advocate for Mental and Invisible Illnesses

-Author of Articles, Stories and Poems (moving posts to other blog and will be deleting this one).

My first blog post is up at International Bipolar Foundation (IBPF) – see link below. October 2, 2015

I am so excited. Here is the link to my first blog post on International Bipolar Foundation:

Remember now that my real name is Teresa Smeigh. Tessa is just a nickname. They have one typo and they have to add my personal blog still and it will be perfect.

Teresa (Tessa) Dean Smeigh

-Advocate for Mental and Invisible Illnesses

-Author of Articles, Stories and Poems (moving posts to other blog and will be deleting this one).

New Construction of my Old Blog

As you can see I have started the overhaul of the old Advocate for Mental Health and now it is called “Tessa Can Do It! Positivity is catching!” This matches my URL now which has always been “”

From now on there will be no more new posts on “Always a Writer.” Everything new will be on here.

I am tired of feeling sorry for myself and hope my new blog brings me hope of a better life. Negativity hasn’t gotten me anywhere that is for sure. Always being positive is hard, but worth the energy to try and keep it going.

God bless you all and welcome to the new “Tessa Can Do It!”

Teresa (Tessa) Dean Smeigh

-Advocate for Mental and Invisible Illnesses

-Author of Articles, Stories and Poems (moving posts to other blog and will be deleting this one.

Grabbing for my blog(s).

One of the suggestions I received was to combine the 2 blogs into one. Make it easier on myself. One blog and have it contain everything. That way my writing of stories and poems can also be enjoyed by others and not have to follow 2 blogs and I will only have to write one blog.

I don’t know if it is possible to have Word Press combine the 2 somehow or if I will have to hand move over what I want to keep. I left them a question in the help section, but not getting too excited that they will actually help any.

It is almost time to renew that domain for the story blog so had to write to them to ask them to take it off auto-renew because I think I will go for the one blog for everything so no use spending that money for the time it takes me to move things over.

I have quite a bit of work ahead of me if I move the posts from the other blog over. I don’t want to lose them. The only place I have them is on my blog.

I wonder how many posts one blog can hold.

Teresa (Tessa) Dean Smeigh

-Advocate for Mental and Invisible Illnesses

-Author of Articles, Stories and Poems