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Friday #fotoflash June 14, 2019


DB McNicol’s #fotoflash

Source: https://pixabay.com/photos/pier-jetty-persons-child-kid-801812/

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John and Josie spent the day fishing and arguing. They had been doing this since the day they were married 5 years ago.

They sat on the little pier and put their lines in. Occasionally they would catch a fish big enough to save for dinner. They added it to the little bit of rice they had every day. Thank God for rice or they would eat even less.

Josie resented the life she had married into. John didn’t care about her one way or the other. Most of the time he told her she was ruining his life. One more mouth to feed, and now she was pregnant. Just what they needed.

John didn’t know yet, but it was only a matter of time before he noticed the bulge of the baby. She tried to not undress in front of him and her clothes, from the thrift store, were large and shapeless already.

Summer turned to fall, and the leaves started to fall, and the weather was getting too chilly to fish. She found John eyeing her more and more, and she was sure he noticed the bulge of the baby. He didn’t say a word, but one day he asked her to go fishing even though the weather wasn’t nice. She didn’t want to, but John told her they hadn’t been catching any fish and he was tired of just rice and so they needed to fish.

Josie told him she would be out shortly as she had to change into something warmer. Hurry up he said and left the small house.

She changed and came out of the house. She walked out on the pier and picked up her rod. Before she could sense his intentions, he had grabbed a hold of her, and threw her over and into the water, holding her down until she stopped struggling.

He let go and she floated in the water. He picked up the rope, and tied it around her, and then tied a large rock around her. He started to walk, dragging her body after him. He knew about where the lake deepened, he had checked it out several days ago when she hadn’t been with him and marked it with a bobber and rock.

Reaching the bobber, he started to feel around with his foot until he found the ledge. He pulled her over and pushed her body over the ledge and she sunk. Elated that it was deep enough to hide her body he headed back to the house and climbed into a warm shower and stood there until the water ran cold.

He lifted the board that hid his valuables and lifted the sack that contained his savings. He was going out to get a decent meal for once. No more rice and fish for him.

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DB’s Rules:

Welcome to my Friday Foto Flash Fiction challenge! Each Friday I will post a new picture to be used as inspiration for your flash fiction written in 500 words or less. Be sure to include the photo, the source credit, and a link to this post with your storyEntries will close on Thursday at midnight Eastern Time.

Once your post is live, add your link to the list below. I hope you will visit the other entries (and check back often for new stories). Remember to leave them a comment in appreciation. Thank you and enjoy! Here’s your photo prompt.

Tessa

Advocate for mental health and invisible illnesses, also a devout Christian

Author – http://www.finallyawriter.com (this blog contains my old work mostly although occasionally I do add something new here), new work is mainly on this blog http://www.tessacandoit.com

My 8 Years Anniversary with Word Press!


I have been with Word Press for 8 years now. That would have been the first blog which is http://www.finallyawriter.com. I created Tessa Can Do It a couple of years later.

Boy time does fly!

Tessa

Advocate for mental health and invisible illnesses, also a devout Christian

Author – http://www.finallyawriter.com (this blog contains my old work mostly although occasionally I do add something new here), new work is mainly on this blog http://www.tessacandoit.com

Vote Here for the 2019-2020 One-Liner Wednesday Badge


Help choose a new badge for Linda G. Hill’s One-Liner Wednesday Badge. Vote now!

All the entries are in! We have what I think is a record number of contestants: thirteen! So get settled in and get ready to choose. If you haven’t seen all the badges entered into the contest, make sure you visit the links and take a look.

Since I can’t put the links themselves in the poll, I’ll name them. So when you find your favourite, remember the name of the badge so you can vote for it.

Here they are in the order they entered the contest:

Anita with Puppy Love

John Holton with Highway

Willow with White Swan

Fandango with Blue Angel Jet Stream

Mamasquirrel with Nutty Squirrel

JoAnna with Pelicans in Flight

Laura with Long Dock

Tessa with Canada Goose

Jill with City Scene

Maggie with Swimming Turtle

Pamela with Unhappy Cat

pensitivity with Black Swans

Melanie with Artsy Pen

Thank you so much to all the…

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Friday #fotoflash June 7, 2019


DB McNicol’s #fotoflash


Photo courtesy of Sheri Waddell

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Cassie is still in shock. Seeing Stephanie sprawled on that walkway dead, her missing belongings sprawled all over the place, had been shocking.

She stood in front of the waterfall and spent hours thinking about Stephanie’s life and how it had been cut short due to her taking her to that awful party.

Part of the blame was due to the police as they wouldn’t take her seriously when she reported her missing. If they had spent more time looking into that area they had been in, perhaps they would have found something to help them solve the crime and prevent the death of her friend.

Eventually, she sat down in front of the waterfall and just cried. Such a young life lost so early and she felt so responsible even though she wasn’t the one who had killed her.

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Tessa

Advocate for mental health and invisible illnesses, also a devout Christian

Author – http://www.finallyawriter.com (this blog contains my old work mostly although occasionally I do add something new here), new work is mainly on this blog http://www.tessacandoit.com

Government Property – A Memoir of a Military Wife – Chapter 3 (check it out)


This is Chapter three. To read chapters one and two go to the Table of Contents and catch them there.

Chapter Three

A Baby, Girl or Boy?

Breezes blowing, the smell of salt and sunscreen in the air, and constant laughter of those swimming or playing with a beach ball or frisbee. This is the sight and smells that met us as we entered the beach area near the base nearly every night.

Living so close to the beach at that point earlier in our marriage, had us spending a lot of time at the beach. If it hadn’t been only 5 minutes away, I am sure we wouldn’t have gone just about every night, but living that close, why not?  Our home at that time was still in the very first mobile home park we found when we first got to North Carolina and was five minutes from the beach and 5 or so minutes from the base where Andy was stationed for training. It was ideally located. Almost every night when he got off duty, we would pack up and head off to the beach. I was pregnant at this point with child number one. This was the summer of 1977.

Sometimes we would stop at a pizza place for dinner although I couldn’t stomach pizza often at this point in my pregnancy. If it was really bad, I sent him in alone. I was craving a cola product. I was constantly sending him to the store for bottles of it. Pregnancy can do some weird things to you. Just like pizza. I loved pizza, but while pregnant with child number one I hated it.

Many times, we would stop and get a bushel or so of crabs, and we would use a hibachi to heat it up on the beach. Using the salt water from the ocean to season it, we would cook the crabs. My husband didn’t eat the crabs, he did that just for me. Sometimes we would bring our friends to share in this treat. This was about 40 years ago, and the water wasn’t as polluted, so using the saltwater to season the crabs didn’t seem like a bad idea. At least we never got sick from it, so I take it that it was okay. I wouldn’t do that today. Today I wouldn’t even set foot in the water let alone cook my crabs in it.

On a side note, one night a year or so later, my neighbor in base housing where we were living at the time, asked me if I wanted some crabs. I was delighted and agreed, not thinking about the fact that my husband wasn’t home, and I was afraid of them and didn’t pick them up. When the neighbor came back, they were in a paper bag that was falling apart. The crabs were scrambling around in there and their sharp claws were tearing the bag apart.

I had the pan of boiling water on the stove and using a pair of tongs I tried to pick up a crab to drop it into the water. I dropped it and it was running around on the floor and I was barefoot. Luckily my washer and dryer were in the kitchen and I climbed quickly on top of the dryer. The crab happily ran around my kitchen while I was ensconced on the dryer. I sat there for about an hour until Andy came home and started laughing. I begged him to please pick up the crab off the floor and to put the rest in the pot which had almost boiled dry by now. After teasing me for a while he did pick it up and put the rest in the pot after refilling it with water.

My current home is on the east coast in New Jersey and there are beaches approximately an hour to two hours away. The beaches here would never allow cooking with a hibachi right there on the sand and they regulate visitors with beach passes. We had more freedom 40 years ago and for all I know, it had to do with the state we were in at that time. Different areas have different rules or laws for their beaches. Many an unsuspecting beach-goer has gotten in trouble for not having a beach tag. Even in this state, not all beaches require them. My sister has a beach house in Ocean City, New Jersey and they buy season passes for their whole family and a couple for visitors.

Back to the beach for the summer of 1977. It was a miserable time for me as I had terrible morning sickness. The only good thing is that back then in the 1970’s they would give you something for nausea.  I also spent a lot of time in the morning consuming saltine crackers. I didn’t spend my time ferrying my neighbors around every day like I had been doing. I was worn out myself. If I had to go to the base, I would take whoever had to go that day with me, but that was it, no special trips.

Finally, Andy’s training ended, and he finished first in his class and that gave him the right to choose his next duty station first. There was only one on the east coast, in fact, I don’t believe there were any others in the United States. If there was, it was on the west coast and we wanted to stay as close as possible to our families. So, he picked the one in North Carolina. It was less than an hour from where we had first lived in North Carolina.

Luckily, he worked hard and won that choice as most of his fellow buddies headed straight overseas to Japan. Andy never really got overseas, and he still regrets that. He had a very short trip to Germany for a few weeks, but that was all. His CO (Commanding Officer) at his regular duty station didn’t believe in sending his married men overseas if he could help it. Especially if they were having babies and I had two while he was with him.

Somewhere along here he also got another meritorious promotion to Lance Corporal. Before he got out, he also was given a meritorious promotion to Corporal as well. He worked on getting Sergeant, but he didn’t quite make it before he decided not to re-enlist at the end of his active duty. He had enlisted for four years of active duty and two years of reserves. He used around 6 months of reserve duty so that we could spend our first Christmas together after he joined the military. We were married July 10, 1976, and he left for boot camp on December 26, 1976

Getting back to the subject of child number one. We had to move since he was changing duty stations. We went out looking for another mobile home park. He couldn’t find an opening in base housing, so we had no choice. We drove up to the new base and drove around it and found a few parks. We didn’t like what we saw. We had been very lucky with that first one when we first arrived in North Carolina. We had a brand-new, fully furnished mobile home in a nice area. That wasn’t the case here.

We found one that was fully furnished, but the place was a dump for one thing. We had no choice as we had to move, and we couldn’t find anything else. So, we packed everything up and moved to the new place. I unpacked our food boxes, but most of the stuff was still packed as we had come in later in the day.

We had seen a few cockroaches but didn’t think too much about it. The next morning Andy got up to go to his new duty station. He always ate breakfast. So, he got a bowl, the milk and a box of cereal. He poured the cereal into the bowl and it was filled with roaches. I screamed and just about puked. He was calmer than me, but he sure wasn’t hungry after that.

I made him check all the food. Anything in a box or cardboard container was eaten through and full of roaches. Anything in a hard container or in the refrigerator was fine. So now since this is where we had to live, I had no choice, but to put all our food into the refrigerator or into a hard-plastic container which I had to go out and buy along with the food that had to be replaced.

Then I started to look around and realized that they were everywhere. In the furniture, the curtains, on the ceiling and in the drains were two-inch-long water bugs or water roaches. I was horrified and thought about the baby. I became hysterical and told him he had to get us base housing. I was not bringing a baby into this place where roaches could climb all over him or her and/or fall off the ceiling on them either. It was freaking me out which was bad enough, but not my baby. I still had several months left so there was time although that didn’t help me calm down any.

I refused to unpack our boxes. When we got the go-ahead to move, I wanted to throw them into the car and go. Thankfully it only took about three weeks to get base housing. When we went to unpack though we had to go very slowly and carefully and shake everything out well, so we didn’t bring any of those nasty creatures to our new home with us. We unpacked those boxes outside and carried the stuff in once we had determined it had no bugs or what looked like eggs. When our first daughter arrived in January of 1978 just a day after her father’s birthday, she was not greeted by roaches thankfully.

The housing was for the lower enlisted men and women. I kind of liked them though. The kitchen was large enough to put portable washers and dryers into them. It was a tight fit, but it fit and for that, I was grateful since we were going to have a baby soon and we were using cloth diapers and going to be doing a lot of laundry. There were two small bedrooms, a bathroom that had a window in the tub which meant closing it up as well as possible while showering since it opened right at the door, and then a living room which had a door that opened onto a walkway that went between the houses. We used the back door where we parked, usually for coming and going. The other door was mainly for keeping it open during the day or for going for a walk down the walkway.

One day I was sitting out front and my big belly was just hanging out there and a lady walked past and asked me, “is that your first child?”  I said, “yes it was.” Then she asked me, “do you have any clothes for him or her?” I said, “no I don’t have any clothes for the baby yet.” After a few more words she left. As I was wondering what that was all about, she came back a few minutes later with three of the one-piece sleepers that babies wear. She says, “they aren’t new, but here are your first baby clothes.”

I was so excited. She had seen them at a yard sale. I started to go to yard sales and collecting baby stuff. No one there was going to throw me a baby shower. We didn’t know anyone, and family was in New Jersey, not North Carolina. Almost everything we had was used. We got as much as we could from people we knew, rather than strangers. For example, things like a crib, stroller, walker and a playpen I didn’t want from a stranger. Clothes were easily washed.

We ended up painting the bathroom before I delivered my child. I had never painted before so when we were done Andy looked at me and laughed. I had more paint on me than the wall. My belly stuck out so far that it kept rubbing up against the walls we were painting. I didn’t do any more painting after that.

Child number one was born early, but her labor was 36 hours long and the hospital sent me home. I was furious because I was sure that the baby was coming. They insisted it was not.

My husband had to go to the veterinarian with the dog and I told him to just go. We had a CB radio at home and in the car and if he was there already, I could try calling the veterinarian’s office and ask for him. Nothing happened anyhow. I was still pregnant when he got home.

The next day he had to go to work, and I had to take the car to the dealer for work on the car. Their young worker who did the customer driving was horrified when he was told to take me home. I was still in labor and huge, but I wasn’t going back to that hospital any time soon. We all argued but finally, he took me home when his boss ordered him to. No baby came. She waited until daddy got home from work. I had been in labor for his entire birthday, but she waited. I guess she wanted her own date.

This was our first child and we had no idea what would happen. Finally, the pains were closer, and I had no choice, but to go back to the hospital. They broke my water and started active labor. I refused anesthesia. All my births were natural. Finally, as she was out of my body, I heard the doctor say, “She peed on me.” I was mortified, but it turned out to be the baby who peed on him. So, on a cold day, the end of January 1978, daughter number one arrived into this world and we were first-time parents.

While I was in the hospital for some reason, they didn’t bring my baby to me to stay like the others. Friends came to visit and brought their four-month-old daughter with them. I was worried and I wanted them to leave as other children were not allowed in there. Suddenly she starts to scream. Andy and her parents left her lying on the bed and took off. I was terrified that someone would come to see why I was having so much trouble with the baby and they would have found a four-month-old rather than my newborn who was still not staying with me. I was mad at them for quite a while after that. They could have gotten me into so much trouble. Nowadays children can visit the maternity floor, but not back in 1978.

Taking her home was uneventful, but when we got there and I put her in the crib, our cat decides that it was nap time. I hadn’t realized that the cat had been sleeping in the crib while we waited for the baby to be born. The cat jumps in and in shock jumps right back out. That ended the cat sleeping in the crib thankfully.

Work of Creative Non-Fiction and Copyright


Work of Creative Non-Fiction and Copyright

This is a work of creative non-fiction. The events are portrayed to the best of my knowledge. A memoir is written from memory and memory can be flawed. If I got anything wrong, I apologize.

I have changed some people’s names and/or descriptions to protect privacy. All Rights Reserved.

Copyright © 2019 Teresa Dean Smeigh

All rights reserved. No part of this book can be reproduced, copied, scanned or distributed in any printed or elec­tronic form without express written permission of the author. This book contains material protected under United States Federal copyright laws.

Dedication and Thanks


I dedicate this book to my children and their father, Andrew Smeigh. Between us, we had three great children and four grandchildren (at the time this was written).

I also dedicate this book to our best friends Charles and Kimbaly Stanley who were there for us during the military years and who helped raise our children, while my husband and I were working. My husband was defending our country and I was serving the Officers of the United States military at their Officer’s club in their times of recreation.

I also thank Charlie for his service to our country and to Kim for standing by him as a dedicated military wife.