Category Archives: Physical Illnesses

Online Dating With Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome

Online Dating With Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome

I am not interested in dating much. The reasons are far and wide. disorders are many and depending on the activity are beyond my pain and fatigue.

2. I am shy and new people and places scare me.

3. I have been hurt too many times.

I am not looking, but but not giving up completely. I do miss the companionship and support. I am not interested much in sex so that can kill a relationship, but there are others out there looking for companionship only. If it is meant to be, it will be.

Tessa – advocate for mental health and invisible illnesses, also devout Christian

Author – (this blog contains my old work, new work is on this blog


Up and running, but not like before

I have my blog up and running again I am just not completely happy with out it turned out. Some of the widgets are missing and can’t be replaced they were pictures added by a html code and I no longer have them anywhere and some just won’t work. I can’t get my Facebook link to run. The space is there, it is filled out and maybe it will just appear. Crazier things have happened.

I am done with it for now and am going to write for a bit and maybe move a few poems or stories over from the other blog. Something to take my mind off the pain and the aggravation I have gone through for the last few hours.

I had my cervical MRI today and it really freaked me out when they locked me into a neck brace to hold me still. I am severely claustrophobic and even took twice the amount of anxiety medicine to try and keep from ending it early and having to redo it. It is done now and I hope that is the last of the tests for now. just waiting to see if pain management decides to do the steroid shots or feels surgery would be best. Back and neck surgery, fusion of discs etc could leave me even more immobile than I already am. I just have to put my faith in God that he will bring me through this situation safely and in a good way.

Teresa (Tessa) Dean Smeigh

-Advocate for Mental and Invisible Illnesses

-Author of Articles, Stories and Poems (moving posts to other blog and will be deleting this one).

Just a little work goes a long way!

I have been working on the new “Tessa Can Do It” blog and just these last few days I am finding a new growth in my readership. I am making the effort to follow up with those that leave me likes or messages and spending more time reading other’s blogs like I used to.

There is no way I can read everyone I follow and for that I am sorry, but anyone who has a fairly good size following understands where I am coming from. i have vowed to work more on keeping up with the blog and now that I am going from 2 blogs to one blog I should have a little more time to read once the conversion is complete.

I am making a separate listing in the reader for my new followers or for the old ones as I find them and they still interest me. I followed everyone in the beginning in an effort to build readership and some of these aren’t even in English. I hate trying to get it translated.

Also working on my blood sugars. They are all over the place and higher than I want so need to watch what I eat a little bit closer. My pancreas no longer makes its own insulin so I have to inject what I need and that is what will bring it down. It doesn’t really come down on its own anymore.

I just ate scrambled eggs, sausage and bacon. Since my number at the time was 78 I didn’t think about injecting any insulin and it is happily rising on its own. My nurse taught me a little bit about using the insulin to correct these incidents. I forgot to inject it this morning when I ate. I am still learning about correcting without over-correcting. I keep glucose tablets on hand just in case my sugar drops to dangerous lows. I was 44 last week and that took some time to come up and I was lucky that I was just light-headed and didn’t pass out. MUST be careful.

Went to our usual brunch today and this restaurant is headed downhill. They have closed many already and this one is on its way to join them. The food sucks and its employees have lousy skills. The only good thing is that the food is half-price, though I doubt that will save it in the end. There are no customers when food is regular priced. The only reason we don’t go to another restaurant is that this one is closer for my friend who doesn’t do much driving and she can tolerate the food. I hate it! We had to get the manager today. Our waitress was having all her tables complaining. Probably won’t finish the day off.

Tomorrow I will be going to my grandson’s football game. I have forgotten some of the rules and it isn’t as clear as a professional game so can’t tell sometimes what the plays are. I used to have a fairly good understanding of the game, but I have switched to Major League Baseball although since it is the Phillies we do a lot of losing LOL although they have gotten much better this second half of the season.

My pain has decreased some. Not sure if the inflammation is going down taking the discs off the nerve or I am just distracting myself more and not dwelling on my medical issues. I still have the 13 pages of papers the doctor’s office is requiring to be filled out. I hate filling all those medical papers out especially since they rarely read them.

Teresa (Tessa) Dean Smeigh

-Advocate for Mental and Invisible Illnesses

-Author of Articles, Stories and Poems (moving posts to other blog and will be deleting this one.

Pinched nerves!

Saw the orthopedic dr today. Both nerves are pinched, but can’t be fully seen on the cat scan so they are doing MRI’s on both. Getting the nerve test done to make sure no permanent damage and will see the pain specialist on October 17 to see about the steroid injections and pain management. He also wants me to do physical therapy on both areas, but that is simply out of the question and didn’t help last time. He also gave me 30 percocets that won’t last til pain management kicks in. Not happy about that, but the new laws suck. At least he gave me some. Also don’t know if insurance will agree to pay for part of the MRI’s yet. If not, no MRI’s.

I have told people I have Fibromyalgia already, but they are coming out of the wood work to add their 2 cents like it is new news. The Fibromyalgia isn’t helping this whole thing for sure.

Teresa (Tessa) Dean Smeigh

-Advocate for Mental and Invisible Illnesses

-Author of Articles, Stories and Poems

If it isn’t one thing, it’s another!

Spent yesterday in the ER (emergency room) and my already bad arthritis (degenerative disk disease) has increased severely and is pinching nerves in the neck and back. Pain pills (narcotics) not helping much.

Can’t sleep for long or sit for long or stand for long. I couldn’t take the pain any more yesterday and I have lived with chronic pain for 40 years now.

My sugars are now high since they did give me steroids while there and the normal treatment at least the last time this happened which was 7 years ago was steroid shots. Can’t keep my sugars down while taking them. Wonder if treatment has changed since then.

Teresa (Tessa) Dean Smeigh

-Advocate for Mental and Invisible Illnesses

-Author of Articles, Stories and Poems

Is Fibromyalgia Linked to Your Blood Type?

Is Fibromyalgia Linked to Your Blood Type?

Although the gist of the article seems to link Fibromyalgia to those with type O positive blood, I don’t agree as I have it and I am type B.

Teresa (Tessa) Dean Smeigh

-Advocate for Mental and Invisible Illnesses

-Author of Articles, Stories and Poems

How to Find a Good Pain Clinic for Fibromyalgia

How to Find a Good Pain Clinic for Fibromyalgia

If you are looking for narcotic pain relief you need to find a reputable pain specialist. Most regular doctors no longer prescribe opioids at all. It used to be you could go to your primary doctor with a backache and receive painkillers. This no longer happens and hospitals no longer just automatically prescribe opioids if you are in the emergency room for pain.

I am taking psychiatric medications that won’t allow me to have narcotics. I did have a pain specialist years ago though.

Teresa (Tessa) Dean Smeigh

-Advocate for Mental and Invisible Illnesses

-Author of Articles, Stories and Poems